I don't think I was the only one the hospital forgot to give the instruction manual to when I left with my new bundle of joy about 17 months ago. Oh, they don't give manuals out these days?? That explains it.
I understand that everyone has their own parenting techniques and being a mother is a lot of trial and error. I am not the perfect mom, but I damn sure try to be.
But when something isn't working out the way you planned or your little bundle of joy gives you panic attacks when it comes to bedtime every night, maybe it's time to re-evaluate your parenting techniques.
Who doesn't worry about their child every single day?
Am I reading enough to her?
Is she getting the nutrition she needs from a balanced diet?
Is she spending enough time playing outside?
Does she get enough social interaction with other children?
Are these tantrums normal? Really? This young??
I have asked every single one of these questions. Multiple times. My MIL can vouch for me on this one.
I think to myself, I hope it gets easier...fully knowing that it won't. But at the end of the day, when my child gives me a kisses and tells me "nigh nigh" {night night} in her sweetest voice...at 7pm {okay it's more like 8pm these days, thanks to the summer sun not going down until then} but then she simply lays down and goes to sleep. I must be doing something right, right?!
I have a happy child. Sometimes, parenting gets a little shaky and it's normal to question your routines, but when your child isn't sleeping until 9pm at the earliest and you have to lay down with them every night and they don't take naps during the day. Maybe it's time to rethink what exactly you are doing in your daily routine, or not doing for that matter.
Nutrition, structure and control in the household?
I must be doing something right. Boy, is that reassuring.
Okayyy. Rant over. :0)
I don't see anything wrong if the baby goes down at 9:00 p.m. or later and doesn't take naps-----
ReplyDeleteAs long as the parents aren't COMPLAINING about it. If they are, then yes they need to re-asses the daily schedule. But if works for them, I see nothing wrong.
If panic attacks and anxiety is what "works for them" then they should stick with that routine. But personally, that wouldn't work for me or my family. Like I said, everyone has their own parenting techniques and what works for them, but I don't think it's necessary to be fighting bedtime every night. Children like structure and schedules. Not everyone is able to be a stay at home parent, but this particular person that was expressing their "nightly routine" that gives them panic attacks IS an at home mom, so a schedule is feasible, and IMO bedtime should not be from 9-12 (when the child wants to go to sleep).
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